” I am a sexual being and I have the choice.” A talk with Victoria Koprek

“I am a sexual being and so are you. Feel free to look, I will set my boundaries. Coz I am not afraid anymore. Not afraid to say yes, not afraid to say no. I am a sexual being and I have the choice.”

Words / Model  Victoria Koprek
Photography by Stefan Klüter

 

“When I’ve taken my first conscious nudes the other day I truly fell in love with my naked body for the first time in my life. Me and my body we had our moments before but nothing like this. I didn’t get naked to get confirmed or proof something to myself, what I do sometimes. I got naked only in front of myself. I was lying in bed filling every cell of my body with deepest compassion. I touched the parts of my body that I treated with so much hate for many years. I felt like the energy that I was exchanging with my body was shining bright colors. This was pure love that I felt in this moment.

Today I simply love being naked. I love being naked in a childish way. Just being. It’s ok when people gaze, I am a sexual being and so are you. Feel free to look, I will set my boundaries. Coz I am not afraid anymore. Not afraid to say yes, not afraid to say no. I am a sexual being and I have the choice.

I dedicate this picture to the nakedness of love, pure love.
The feeling of sliding through water with your naked skin. Sense & feel air, wind and earth. Become one. This beautiful body melting in with the nature it is surrounded by. Let the masculine and feminine within you dance. Without guilt.
To all sexual beings out there
To the nakedness of love, enjoy, be sexy, be free, set boundaries.”

“You are not here to please anyone but to become the best version of you.”

 

What made you start loving yourself and your (naked) body?

The first step was to realize that my negative and self-deprecating thoughts  had nothing to do with the truth but they were born in comparison, self doubt and fear. I didn’t want to be afraid of life anymore, I didn’t want to hide and to feel weak. Shortly after I decided to become my true self my meditation teacher and mentor Eddie Vero entered my life by what majority of people call coincidence. Meditating on a daily base brought me in touch with my inner strength, my beauty, my femininity, my vision and the goddess within me. It helped me to face my pain and move forward. I learned that when you love yourself, everything else falls into place. I feel like, the more self-love I cultivate the more beautiful I become inside and out.

How can one cultivate self love?

Try to treat yourself as you would treat your own child. Give yourself the love you want other people to give you. Let go of all the judgement. You don’t have to proof anything to anybody. You are perfect as you are, if only you see the perfection within yourself. Picture the best version of you. How would you speak? How would you move? What would you wear? Replace every judgmental and mean thought with this picture of holy you. Aim towards this goal, watch yourself. Smile about your mistakes. Be gentle and forgiving to yourself. Take long baths, eat good food, practice yoga and any kind of movement. Fill every cell of you body with deep compassion and enjoy the simple things and the small steps forward towards your goals, enjoy yourself, enjoy the process. Be your best friend, your lover, your mother, your child. Self-love is not a crime, you are allowed to laugh and to love.

 

“Smile about your mistakes. Be gentle and forgiving to yourself.”

 

Why is self-love so difficult?

It is not. Self-love is a choice. Stop wanting to be like them. Stop seeing yourself with their eyes. Don’t be afraid to love yourself. I asked a friend ones if she could show me the fotos she did of me. „You really love yourself“, she said, while I looked at the pictures, as if it was narcissistic. For a second I felt offended until I realized that she would love to look at pictures of herself with the same passion. There will always be people judging you and projecting their own insecurities and fears on you. There will always be those saying you are crazy because you hug yourself, stroke your own skin, laugh to yourself and enjoy yourself. Remember you are not here to please anyone but to become the best version of you, to live a live in love and joy, without doubt and without fear. Let them judge you but don’t let their black magic affect you.

What do you think is the difference between narcissism and self-love?

This question makes me giggle. In psychology narcissism is a personality disorder. Self-love is clearly not. A “narcissist” is understood to be a person with pronounced egoism, arrogance, and selfishness. Someone who behaves ignorant towards others. When you love yourself though, you develop a stronger sense for community and an ability to give and receive. When you love yourself you don’t see yourself as better than anyone, but you see the same beauty and light in the people around you, that you see within yourself.

 

image by futilitydeluxe

“Everything is perfect in it’s non-perfectness. I love the life I chose, and everyday I make new choices.”

 

Totally in love with your “first nude” post and message. Can you eloborate it for our readers? 

I like to take selfies of myself in fancy outfits. I never took photos naked before. Until this day suddenly I heard the call. I was laying in bed, just looking at my naked body and stroking my skin. I felt a strong feeling of gratitude, got goosebumps on my skin and tears in my eyes. I was amazed by myself. I saw myself as a adorable sexual being. I wanted to capture the beauty I saw in my body. I was looking at these selfies over and over for days until I decided to share one. I didn’t want to share the selfie because of confirmation, but to share the feeling of being one with my body. The feeling of comfort. The feeling of being happy with who I am. The high amount of love I have for myself, my body and the people around me. Now you’ll find plenty nude posts of me in the internet. I am really amazed by my followers they really feel the true intention of my pictures and texts. The feedback I get is so real and encouraging.

 

“I felt a strong feeling of gratitude, got goosebumps on my skin and tears in my eyes. I was amazed by myself. I saw myself as a adorable sexual being.”

 

Which habits did you change for better health?

Our body is only the mirror of whats going down deep within. I didn’t really change anything, I only became aware through meditation, yoga and my inner journey. With awareness your body & health routine will automatically change. Today I naturally feel when my body is lacking movement or I ate food which doesn’t suit my stomach. For me personally it is yoga, dance, meditation and plant based food that make me feel energized and in my full power.

Who is the most important person in your life right now?

There are a lot of important people in my life but I guess the most important person is me. I have a lot of friends and mentors who encourage me in different fields and I am so thankful for every single one, but in the end the most important teacher is within. It is good to listen to wise words, but making your own experience, your own choice, following your own intuition is always the right thing to do. I love that I’ve always been so fatheaded. I would never accept anybody else truth but my own, my parents had a tough time with me. I want adventure and discover this world with anybody else´s eyes but my own.  I was always told to stop dreaming, now I’ll do everything to fulfill myself all the dreams I ever had.

 

“I want adventure and discover this world with anybody else´s eyes but my own.”

 

Your favorite book? 

The Alchemist.

Your favorite movie?

Barbarella.

Your favorite tattoo?

All of them, because each one contains a meaning, a memory, a feeling. Each creates the whole picture. I love the word „fancy“ on my hip though, because fancy is my forever attitude.

What do you expect from life?

Everything and nothing. I am thankful for this interview, it makes me feel very grateful for life. Everything is perfect in it’s non-perfectness. I love the life I chose, and everyday I make new choices. Live is becoming better and better. After every fall, every suffer, I come around stronger. I love that there is always change, always something to surrender to, always adventure, always growth. Every situation I go through, wether it is good or bad brings me closer to my core. It takes nothing more but compassion and trust. Thank you C-Heads for seeing me and letting me share a little bit of my truth.

 

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